How to Believe in Yourself When No One Else Does

Do you ever have days where you are overwhelmed with anxiety and fear? Does the entire universe seem to be against you? If you are working on a goal or dream and trying to change things for the better, it can feel impossible to move forward on days when things seem to be going so bad. It can be even more devastating when you are trying to believe in yourself, but no one else does.

I had a day like that a few weeks ago. I was pitching my next book to publishers, and after the twentieth rejection notice, I started to lose faith. I thought to myself, “I believe in this message and this book so much, but it seems no one else does.”

In moments of uncertainty, we have a choice: we can believe in ourselves or we can let what others say about us consume us. When you feel self-doubt and lack clarity, turn your fear into faith by believing in yourself.

I was disappointed and sad, until I quickly caught myself in the negativity. Instead of staying in self-doubt, I rolled up my sleeves, pulled out my positive tool kit, and went to work on turning my fear into faith.

The problem was, I started to let the outside world tell me my worth, one rejection letter after another. I began to believe that their feedback was my fate. I stopped putting my focus on believing in my book and message and started to fall into fear. I quickly caught myself and changed my energy to focus on the love of writing and the book itself. I needed to reconnect with my dream and believe in myself.

It can be difficult, especially when you care so much about a dream. When others don’t see the same potential or value, it can be easy to derail yourself. But today’s message will help you believe in yourself. Especially when no one else does.

Here are three super easy things you can implement to help you believe more in yourself

1. Identify your purpose vs. your passion.

When we are passionate about something, we tend to want others to share in our joy. Often we look for others to approve of our goals because we are so passionate. We think, “I care so much, I need and want others to care just as much as me.” Passion is good—it fuels our dreams—but when you know it is your life purpose, it is bigger than passion and you will align with your authentic self. The trick is to focus on your purpose. When you are aligned with your true purpose, you don’t need others’ approval. So put your purpose over passion.

2. Know why you started.

Think about your goal and why you started in the first place. If you are focusing on the negativity around you and the lack of support, you are taking energy and attention away from your dream. Focus back on your reasons for doing it and why you started in the first place. When you are aligned with your why, you are more centered and focused.

3. Go on a future field trip.

When you are down and out, it could be because you are so consumed with the lack of momentum in your current state. If there is a lot of negativity around you, this can derail you fast. Instead, spend five to 10 minutes a day visiting your future self. Go into your life in six months, one year, or even three years and see how your current situation plays out. Go on a future field trip and picture yourself living the life you are working toward. This will help you reach your goals faster, because when you can believe it, you will conceive it.